Gaslighting: what it isn’t

NOTE: Roughly 500 people access this page a day. Most comments are about diagnosing people. Under no circumstances should you attempt a diagnosis without the DSM-5 or, if that’s too expensive, the DSM Desk Reference. If you can’t see a psychiatrist, at least buy the tool they’d use to determine your diagnosis. So. You’ve probably interacted […]

Trauma as Trivialization

Middle-class America sees any unusual behavior through a pop-psychological lense; a folk version of child psychology and behaviorism where childhood explains every aspect of who you are. Because of this view, society defaults to looking to your childhood to explain abnormalities, the assumption being that if you hadn’t experienced some kind of bizarre childhood event, […]

Fetishizing the Liberal Underdog

If, at a concert or performance, one person interrupts the speaker, rushes the stage with protest signs, or deliberately pushes their voice on a large group of people, they are quickly shut down to audience approval. It would be weird to attend a comedy performance, for example, expecting everyone to interrupt the comedian every time […]

“PR Disaster”

The only thing worse than being asked to make a public apology is making a public apology. Here is a conversation that has never happened: A: Did you hear Daniel Tosh made a rape joke? B: He makes those all the time though. A: Yeah but this girl yelled at him for it and then he said “wouldn’t […]